A prayer for dad (and mom too) please

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Please say a prayer or two for my parents in Arizona. My dad was very recently diagnosed with Stage IV Lung Cancer. He has the cancer in the left lung and bronchial, as well as in two ribs. I knew about the cancer for a few weeks now, but just found out yesterday what stage he is in. I/we don't know the official prognosis, but stage IV has a very low survival rate with many not making past 1 year. I am devastated (as are my mom and dad of course) simply because I've always had a close and good relationship with my parents.

He is 69 years old and other than a weak heart with a pacemaker was in relatively decent health. He had developed back pain from what he thought was a strained muscle, but when it didn't go away, he had it checked further, and that is when they discovered the cancer.

He will not have any surgery since it has already metastasized into the bone, so his only option is chemo/radiation. He's going to fight it hard and only time and the grace of God will determine if he is victorious.
 
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Best wishes, Steve. Must be extra difficult given you are so far away. Hang in there.
 
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So sorry to hear this. I'll say a prayer for him and your family. Please keep us informed. God Bless!
 
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Steve, I'm so very sorry to hear this. Thoughts and prayers from my little part of the world. Be strong...your parents may need you now more than ever.
 
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I am sorry to hear that "The Beast" has visited your family as well. The best thing you can do for your Mother and Father from now on is to be "up" - no tears, no anger, no remorse, no "what if", no "why us" - just be positive and optimistic. You can do all the other stuff out of their presence - and you will need time alone for just you to come to terms with the situation.

I know because my wife was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer of the bones 2 1/2 years ago - we get buy, day by day. Hang in there for your parents sakes...
 
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Same thing happened with my grandma, but she had it in her lungs, liver, pancreas, and brain. I will pray for you and your family.
 
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Thanks all for the prayers and good wishes.

Here's the thing. Right now it looks like I MAY have about a year left with my dad. He lives in Phoenix AZ and I live in PA. I don't have a good job as I've been laid off more than I've worked and even now am only working 3-4 days per week. I am married. What I want to do is go out to AZ and spend what little time I have with my dad with him. Also, I want to be some sort of support for my mom who will have to deal with everything alone. The wife doesn't want to go. In fact she refuses, and would rather me go out for a week or two and then come home and wait for the inevitable phone call that time is short.

I want to go, but I don't want to feel guilty about doing so. I missed 10 years with my father, and I want some quality time before it's over, but then again....I'm married. Am I wrong for wanting this? I know no one can tell me what to do, but I lost on this one.
 
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Good wishes and thoughts to your whole family: be strong and be strong for your Mom, too. My father in law passed 3 months ago from this disease. I would take a week or two to visit your Dad and Mom, come back home to PA and to your wife, and do the trip again, 2-3 months later, and so on. When sadly it becomes obvious that it is just a matter of days, make another trip to AZ.
 
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My prayers are very much so with you Steve, my family just two days ago lost a very close friend to cancer. The wait, and treatment is a very painful process, for everyone. I would say spend as much time with him as possible Steve, all moments together will be precious and even more priceless.
 
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